i don’t know how to stop her

For as long as I can remember, my mom has been calling me fat and ashamed me for what and how i look. She put me on my first diet when I was 9 years old.

I know it’s my responsibility to cope with that kind of thing, but many of them can be traced directly to the way my mother raised me — constantly attracting attention on my body, telling me constantly That it was not good enough, forcing me to restrict my calories when I was much too young to restrict and do not need to lose weight anyway.

But deal with your constant comments about my weight is starting to go crazy. She brings something about my body for each day, either commenting on what I am eating or telling me that I have gained weight or asking what size I wear, etc.

I discussed with her that I think the way she pushed me caused a lot of my diet behaviors, and she really offended when I call it, saying that I do not remember and I’m not grateful that she cares about me

I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t know how to explain her how painful and damaging this kind of rhetoric is for me. It just hurts so much to feel like I’m finally at a place where I can have a healthy, safe relationship with food, and to have her basically tell me that I shouldn’t and that I’ve gone too far off the other end and I’m back to just being a fat girl now. It makes me feel like I’m going to throw all my progress in the trash.

How do I talk to her? How can I make it understand that I just need to treat food and weight in my way and how it deals with it’s too much for me?